Saturday, June 7, 2014
Sometimes life just sucks!
When I think of children being abandoned I just don't understand.
I cannot imagine a single reason that can justify choosing life on the streets over your children.
I cannot imagine leaving behind children that I carried under my heart for 9 months.
It must the single most selfish thing anybody can do.
The parents have been in and out of the Mission for the past 6 years. Both addicted to crack cocaine. The moment they would be back on their feet they left...just to fall into drugs again...and then back onto the program at the Mission. Something we have learned over the past 16 years is that some addicts will have to live in a controlled environment for the rest of their lives. They can never trust themselves and need to be protected against themselves.
In this case the parents were not prepared to come back onto the program. The mother would leave during the late hours of the night to "babysit" and return again early in the morning. One morning she was attacked while picking up newspapers at a taxi rank. (The story they told us) The truth was that this could only be true if the mother called the customers that picked her up "baby"...and she was beaten up by three other prostitutes because she was on their territory. The truth is that she is using again...and the awful cycle of drug addiction and prostitution had taken over her life.
They wanted to leave and we couldn't allow them to take their children onto the street with them...so they abandoned their children. They have four children. The oldest, a daughter of 12, a son of 7 (already in foster care), a son of 4 and a baby of six weeks.
We had a meeting with the Social Services and the procedure is lengthy before any decisions are made. In the mean time we have to place the children privately and try and get the baby registered. Oh my hat, I didn't mention that...the baby wasn't registered at birth and cannot be placed without a birth certificate. The children are with their biological aunt until after this weekend. The aunt has already mentioned that she is not prepared to take the girl in long term. We don't know whether it is because the girl is of mixed race (other than her brothers) or whether she just doesn't want to deal with a broken teenage girl.
So that was my emotionally draining week and my reality...I bet your reality is way different.