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Tuesday, February 26, 2013

I choose love ♥

I have walked with a heavy heart and a sick feeling on the pit of my stomach since Thursday.  Never in my wildest imagination did I think that my post "Taking a stand"  would have such a devastating affect.  As a result of my opinion a life long friendship have been weighed, measured and found worthless.  I can now add two more titles to my name, Two-faced and Back stabber. (I was under the impression that you have to actually agree with somebody and then turn away and disagree before you deserved those titles...but sadly that isn't true)

What did I think?  Well actually, I though our relationship was strong and invincible...truly unconditional love.  I had no reason to believe otherwise.


I could have resorted to name calling too, but I just can't get myself to do that.  I love the other person too much.  The fact that I don't agree with her doesn't mean that I don't love her.  The fact that I have my own opinions does not mean I don't respect hers.  So I turn into myself and go quiet.  That way nobody gets hurt.  No I am lying....I am hurting.  I am grieving for a relationship that is lost.  In time the pain will dull and life will go on.




23 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear Lynette. Hope time will heal the friendship.
    Hugs Desíre {Doing Life}

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  2. So sorry that you're hurting.
    I think that a true friend sticks with you no matter what, even through a strong difference of opinion.
    Here's hoping that God heals the relationship for you both.

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  3. Do not lose heart, Lynette! Вспомните - Делай, что должен и будь, что будет. на латыни -
    Fais se que dois adviegne que peut.
    а ещё говорят - иди своим путём, и пусть люди говорят, что хотят. Эта фраза пишется на латыни следующим образом - Segui il tuo corso ed lascia dir la gente.

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  4. I am very, very sad, Lynette, that your friendship is damaged and that you've been so hurt!

    Praying for you!!

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  5. Being in the USA I may be missing something but I reread your post and can find nothing offensive in it. God bless you as you stand.

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  6. I'm so sorry Lynette. Hope time will heal all.

    Ps: I still don't understand why that post caused a rift though. I have read it like 4 times

    Sending you lots of hugs

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  7. So sorry you are hurting my friend. Lots of love

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  8. I pray that time heals this wound. There is nothing worse than a friendship lost. {{{HUGS}}}

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  9. Life can get complicated when you least expect it, can't it? So sorry to hear that you are hurting. Sending hugs--hope they help.

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  10. So sorry your friend left you over your opinion... that hurts my heart .... I hope he/she will come around soon.....

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  11. I too reread your post and can't figure out what was offensive. You are a very caring person and that shows in the post. I think that you are entitled to share whatever opinion you have on your blog. I think sometimes you just have to stand back and figure that maybe the person who is offended is the one with the issue. It sucks when you think you have a good friend and then realize that it isn't what you thought it was. I have been hurt by girlfriends repeatedly over the years. I stay to myself now. I won't set myself up for the fall. I have my sister and she is my best friend. I also have my daughters. I'll stick with family. Hope you feel better soon. :)

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  12. That is very sad! I always believe that friends are friends no matter what the other one stands for, or believes in!
    It should be stronger than that...

    *Hugs*

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  13. I am sorry to learn that you are hurting Lynette, big hugs.......

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  14. Oh my friend - i know what it is to lose a friend over something that was said or done, in complete innocence on your part, and be completely gob-smacked.

    I feel for you, but I know that given time, this will sort itself out. Right now you are hurting and sore, and your friend probably is too, but give her time. Time heals everything - you know this only too well.

    And hand it over to our God. When it is right, it will be resolved.

    Love you lots and can't wait to see you in May :)

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  15. Hey Lynette...I also went to read this poast and really could not find anything that was "freinship ending" stuff! So sorry that it has been so tough for you..but you said your piece and that's great! We should all have the opportunity to do so! My thoughts are with you! xx

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  16. Oh Dear, I am sorry to read this... I do know what it is like to suddenly find a person you considered a friend in all seasons has left and there is hurt.. lots of it.. I do hope you find some comfort and strength and God will guide you in the days and weeks ahead... Take care..xx

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  17. Hugs Lynette your post was informative & true. Be strong xxxx

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  18. I value that my friends have differing opinions to my own. It broadens my horizons and open my eyes to other points of view, even if I don't agree with them it is always beneficial to see things from all angles.

    Hugs and I am sorry that you are hurting over this.

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  19. Sending you lots of love and hugs. You are an amazing women and never forget that.

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  20. Hugs & prayers to you! So very sorry to read this and know that you are hurting...praying that God will bring you comfort in your grieving. Thanks for sharing.

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  21. My friend, I am so sorry. I will pray for healing for you all. Much love. xoxo

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  22. So sorry Lynette. The same has happened to me with friends AND family. Don't give this nasty person the victory over you. You can be happy without them and their narrow minded opinions.

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