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Thursday, May 6, 2010

Sorry

“We all need love, but we need it most when we deserve it least--when we have sinned against someone, when we have made poor choices, when we have failed. In these situations, ordinary love must become extra-ordinary love.”  —Barbara Rosberg

I realised today that I have gotten my heart in an awful mess with the whole Kobus/Lache divorce debacle...and it has turned me into somebody that I don't want to be.  Lache asked me today to keep my blog public so that she can download photos that I take of the children. I sat for a long time thinking and realised that my initial wish that the two of us will have a civil relationship had somehow gotten lost when I got too close to the problem and picked up on  my son's hurt, and I wanted to lash out.   It would be so easy to just say "I am a Christian, which does not mean I am perfect, it just means that I am forgiven."  But that would be a cop out.

So:  I am sorry, the way I have handled this was not right, justifiable or acceptable...please forgive me for showing such rotten fruit.  I promise that l will try very hard to remain objective and extend love and grace.

20 comments:

  1. Lynette this entry has me in tears!!!!!!!
    Its so raw and honest.
    You a mother and its natural for a mother to want to protect her child and take her child's side. You are human and this is so normal, but for you to see this and come out the other side makes you one beautiful person in my opinion as you have shown a side to yourself most are not prepared to show in blogland.
    Totally respect to you.

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  2. You had "ears to hear," our gracious friend.
    Hurt to our children is one of the hardest areas to deal with.
    Well done!

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  3. I totally agree with Allie. I was a complete rotten fruit about a kid in my sons class-Kindergarten class! Not to the child of course, but about the child.
    Hugs my friend:)

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  4. Dear Lynette sometimes when we declare that we are Christian people think that we must be perfects, but we are humans and as a human we make mistakes and bad choices but nobody should judge you just because they think that you aren't "perfect" you keep your chin up girl.
    God bless you and your family.
    xoxox
    Lidia

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  5. Love this post.
    You lead by example and I don't think you know the full impact you have on the lives of us who follow you and care for your family.
    Thanks to you too.

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  6. Oh Lynette, you are a brave and honest woman. Someone to admire.This must be so tough/.

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  7. Lynette, we all struggle with this in so many ways...hang in there keep going it will get better cuz you are being uplifted in prayer my friend as is your whole family, divorce is no fun and it is natural to want to protect your son. I applaud your courage and grace, thanks for showing it to us to give us your friends/followers the example that we can follow!

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  8. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing your heart with us.

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  9. lynette, we are christians but we r not perfect mothers.. as a mom myself, i used to feel the frustration myself, sometimes i do not know what to do and i will cry out to the Lord.. dont be so hard on yourself, that is why we need God by our side and God wants us to need Him too!

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  10. You are truly an example to us all.

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  11. Liewe sussie,
    Ek het net respek vir jou vir wat jy geskryf het. Jy is voorwaar iemand wie se voorbeeld mens kan volg. Ek het net bewondering vir die voorbeeld wat jy stel.
    My wens vir julle is dat al die wonde in die toekoms sal genees sodat julle ten minste almal 'n goeie verhouding kan he. Tyd genees alle wonde.

    Baie liefde,
    Herlien

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  12. love this post
    hope I'm not intruding

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  13. The situation is hurtful without you having to take sides. Your instinct is to side with your son but you will always be gran to the babies and Lache will always be mom. There will always be a connection and I'm glad that you were able to gain this perspective. Everyone is hurting in this situation.

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  14. Hi Lynette. Been reading your blog for a while and really enjoying your outlook on life, very inspirational!

    This entry made me very tearful. I am currently going through an awful time with my Mum and I am on the verge of cutting off contact with her. All I want to hear from her is the word 'sorry'. She cannot see that she has hurt me beyond words, is so demanding of respect from me at all times yet has no respect for me as a grown woman, wife and mother. The fact that you had the strength of personality and courage to come on here and say sorry in public is such an amazing thing to do. I just wish that my Mum could see things as clearly as you do. Bless you Lynette, your kids are very lucky to have such a fabulous Mum. I'm dead jealous!

    Alison (UK)
    xxx

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  15. This post just devines the person you are. You have done the right thing, love the post and hope it brought you happiness in your heart.xxx

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  16. I think that having a civil relationship with Lache will be good for everybody as she will always be the mother of your grandchildren. Well done on making that decision, because at the end of the day it is a decision.

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  17. You truly do wear your heart on your sleeve... and that is why we love you so much x

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  18. I got very emotional when I read this post.

    Strength. Love. Faith. You have it all.

    Hugs, Irene xx

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  19. You are an amazing woman...And that is all I have to offer you...AMAZING!!!!! {{hugs}}

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